The Advanced Soul

You Disappoint Me

A wise person I know once said, “unspoken expectations are future disappointments.” Now I get the meaning. It seems people expect a lot from me. And in the past I didn’t want to disappoint. But why was I trying to live up to these expectations that were never even asked of me? In my marriage, I quickly learned that telling my wife what I expected of her, and vice-versa, made life much more enjoyable. There were less fights and disagreements. We knew where we stood.

Trying to live up to other people’s expectations causes me to live my life for them. I choose to play by my rules, and not to live to please others. Others will respect me and how I live my life, and it’s about time I told them. Otherwise they get hurt when I don’t play their game. But once I tell them how I want them to treat me, we have an understanding. And if they refuse, well then we have an understanding too. Those who refuse to respect me, will not get my time. Some will think of this as selfish. Put others before you right? Well, no! If I don’t take care of myself first, I cannot take care of others. I will be damaged and broken if I do that. If the plane is going down, put on your oxygen mask first, then help others. Putting others first will cause you to lose consciousness, on the crashing plane, and in a crashing life.

It’s funny, I don’t have many expectations for anybody. I want everybody to do what they want to do. And now, maybe I won’t expect anything, instead, I will respect.

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